Te Quiero (I like you)

Hey guys, it’s finally Spring Break!!! Whoo! I am off to the beaches to soak up this thing called sunlight…something I haven’t seen in a while since I’ve been buried under a mountain of school work and commitments.

This is a poem I thought of in the midst of all the craziness that has happened this past week and I thought I’d share with you all:

Tu eres una benedición del cielo.

Quiero compartirte el cuento de mi vida.

También, quiero escucharte a tu cuento.

Quiero sentirte:

Cuando estás sonriendo,

Cuando estás riendo,

Y cuando estás llorando.

Quiero besarte en tu frente (tienes un frente hermosa).

Quiero besarte en tu nariz (es bastante mona).

Quiero besarte en las esquinas de tu boca (sí, solamente las esquinas).

Te quiero.

Have a great day! 🙂

The Week Before Spring Break

Good Morning!  Today is the last day before the week before spring break.  Did that make any sense?  Who knows, the average amount of sleep I’ve managed to snatch has been something like 4 hours every night.

Why is it that the week preceding this immaculate liberation known as a “break,” teachers and professors have it in their minds to assign every event, project, and paper.  In order to maintain some type of sanity I’ve made a list.  This list looks like someone took the sheet of paper and decided to scrawl an aria of damnation on it.

I’m honestly scared to look at the list, because it has so many things on it.  However, that rather defeats the purpose of a list.  Thus, I’ve taken the opportunity to expel some of my fear here and have written another list…a list that I wish I had at the moment.

It would be so much easier to just give up and get some time to de-stress.

Things I would do more of, if I didn’t have the personality of an A-type anxiety college student:

1. Play the harp for 24 hours: I’ve just re-arranged the song ” A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri and I can’t wait to go practice it again.

2. Watch documentaries: re-imagining the world and seeing it in different lights makes me think about life in ways I never expected…sort of like “why am I here?” sort of deal.

3. Write blog posts more frequently:  If possible at all a post a week would keep the ideas fresh and definitely shorter.

4. Lip-sync badly to the Frozen soundtrack:  I think I’ve listened to so many covers of this song I aspire to arrange a harp piece for Let it Go.

5. Let it go! Let it goooo! And I’ll rise like the break of dawwwn! Sorry, it’s in my head now.

6. Find more opportunities to believe in humanity again:  There’s been a lot of negativity lately.  I understand it’s important to give attention to the problems.  However, if we give that kind of recognition, it’s important to reflect a vision of change and hope.

Have an excellent weekend guys and by next Friday I’ll be writing from a beach chair semi-carefree 🙂

On Coming Out: Gender Spectrum, pt. 3

Alright! It’s Friday!  I hope everyone has some good times planned ahead for the weekend.  I, for one, am going to be spending some time with friends.  Translated this means I’m going to be snuggled up to my computer screen with a blanket and a steaming cup of tea.  The new season of My Mad Fat Diary has come out and I’ve been itching to go watch the magnificent Rae in all her glory and keen insight into mental illness.

Special notice to Ellen Page (again) for opening up this series on gender, orientation, and human rights.  Hopefully, you all remember her coming out speech last Valentine’s Day at the Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s “Time to Thrive” event.

Last week the topic of conversation previewed the idea of a gender spectrum.  If you are not familiar with this, check it out!

The Gender Spectrum: An Introduction

What is the gender spectrum?  There are probably many definitions and charts that can describe this diverse spectrum.  However, what all these explanations have in common is the recognition that a gender binary is no longer a viable way to categorize human beings.

The Binary is a myth, a cultural idea that has captivated generations and even religions for many (many) centuries.  As I shed my childhood notions of the world, it became virtually permeated throughout my life experiences that the world is not, and has never been, black or white.

The gender binary suggests that there are only two ways that someone can identify as: Male or Female.

Research defines “gender” in three possible manners.  The first, is the biological definition which relies on the combination of chromosomes, hormones, and DNA.  The second is “self-presentation.”  This encompasses personal identification of sex.  The third is the most widely conceived notion of gender.  It involves the “gendered” expectations of human being.

For example, let’s say someone sits next to you on the train.  What do you notice first?  When we first meet someone, one of the first characteristics we are looking for is whether this person is a “male” or a “female.”  Are they  attractive, do they act according the way a woman or man should act?  Due to the popular cultural inclinations to identify each other as either one gendered role or the other, we are confused if that person fits neither.

The possible combinations of the chromosomes in a human body can be made out of X and Y chromosomes.  Some examples of theses combinations are: XXX, XX, XXY, XY, and XYY.  There are definitely more than just two.  The same idea can be applied to the many sexual orientations and roles that males and females are now filling.

Ten years ago the political world was more concerned with what Hilary Clinton was wearing instead of what she was saying.  Twenty years ago, the idea that a woman did not have to be married was new and controversial.  Today, women and the LGBT community are experiencing wide attention in regards to rights, recognition, and equality.

One of the goals that should be emphasized more is acceptance.  The roles in which people are now filling have influenced the attitudes and values that we come across in every day society.  The manner in which women are represented in the media effects the manner in which we live in our everyday lives and how we treat others as well.

From birth, one quick check between the legs has placed human beings into one manner of life or the other.  This “identification” or pigeon-holing (as I like to call it) has led to strong cultural expectations that make it seem like it is necessary for someone who doesn’t fit the description to “come out.”

I admire and respect anyone who is brave enough to face the criticism and ignorance that doesn’t accept someone as they are.  However, I am hoping that one day “coming out” doesn’t have to be announcing one’s differences.  Instead, maybe we can raise awareness about the diversity that exists within our very DNA.  That we can learn to see each other as friends, “us,” and not “other.”

Disclaimer: I acknowledge that I am not an expert on this subject.  Anything said and surmised is my own opinion and should be used as an introduction to your own research.  If there’s anything new or different that should be added, let me know and we’ll process it together 🙂

On Coming Out, Pt. 2

Happy March everyone!  There goes a saying that if the first day of March comes in like a “lamb”, it will go out like a “lion”.  This just says that if it’s a nice day the first of March, the last day will be stormy and unpleasant.  Hopefully this month will be nice even though it’s a beautiful day outside.  Is it different anywhere else?

I know I missed the Friday posting, but it’s Saturday, so close enough.

I’d like to continue with the current theme of late: Homosexuality in the United States and the choice of “coming out.”

Ellen Page is a wonderful actor and humanitarian and her actions were noteworthy of their eloquence and humility.  However, this post is going to focus on the responses to her speech at the Human Right Campaign Foundation’s “Time to Thrive” event on Valentine’s Day.

Media sites like Twitter and Tumblr expounded after Page announced that she was gay, on showing support and discussing the issue of someone having to “come out”.  One of the interesting aspects about being able to share information so quickly nowadays is that conclusions, arguments, and theories are processed so fast that it’s difficult to straighten out the worthwhile information from the chatter.

Even trusted news websites can get information wrong.  I’m always skeptical of a news article or theory that claims to have the know-all answer.  It’s been 5 minutes, slow down, and think, is all I want to shout.

What I ask now, just out of curiosity: Is it necessary or even right for someone who does not identify as heterosexual to “come out?”

Even though the emergence of a liberal culture has taken hold of the main media in the U.S. there seems to be trend in which in order to be accepted, one has to “come out.”  If one chooses not to announce a sexual orientation, does that mean the person is not being true to herself or himself?  The community needs just as many allies and advocates who understand that this is not an “us vs. them” issue.

I love the stage that this issue has been given.  The discussion, the opposition, and the awareness is so vital to change.   Nothing is permanent, and the sooner it is realized that the constructs of orientation have never been black and white, the better.  Believe it or not, but there is an entire spectrum of gender classifications.

The binary system of thought that is so popular in “Western” culture has proven to be harmful on many occasions.  Perhaps a common identifiable issue is that of women’s rights.  How should it come to be defined that women were not fit to think “like a man, act like a man, and experience emotion like a man.”  It is truly mind blowing that the standards we our taught to set ourselves against are unequal and biased.

The same applies to the popular idea of a gender binary.  In truth, there are far more gender classifications and identifications that culture and society have constructed.

The first step to overcoming the constructs that have been ingrained into the society, is having an open mind.  To understand that perhaps we don’t know everything.  That the solid base of our human existence is that we are not permanent, that our legacy to others is that of change, experience, and guidance.  With this, I’ll leave off until next week.

For more information please check out this website:  https://www.genderspectrum.org/understanding-gender

Or stay tuned for next week as we continue with the discussion of this important movement happening now!
Have a happy March everyone!  🙂